Our marriage has been through money problems, affairs, job loss, in-laws and  you want the marriage? I know what I’m talking about. If you are not being abused you can have  marriage you want.

If I had to correlate marriage from year to year, I would use baseball. I hit that ball everyday but at times I strike out, hit foul balls and occasions smack some home runs out the park. The key is to play and practice daily and never give up.  Every anniversary is like winning the world series and we are approaching our 24th year of marriage. (Wow!)

I’m not a marriage guru. I only speak from experience. I’m learning marriage is more like a best friend relationship. A best friend that you share everything with and you feel comfortable sharing. It’s nothing you won’t hold back. It’s a true transparency thing. Communication has been the most difficult on my part. The past few years is when I noticed I had a communication problem. To be honest, I was going to walk away from my marriage.

I left my marriage momentarily a few years ago because I felt I wasn’t being heard. I believed that was the best way to get my husband’s attention. We reconciled by the grace of God but it wasn’t easy mending our relationship. I can remember it got worse before it got better. I questioned if I should’ve came back home and I had many sleepless nights.

The changing point for me is when I decided that I wanted my marriage. It didn’t matter if my hubby wasn’t doing everything I thought he should be doing. I decided to look at me and that’s when I saw myself clearly. I realized that I made big issues out of nothing. I realized that I did and said hurtful things to my husband. I saw that I was partly the blame for the turmoil in our marriage. So, now I’m thankful that our marriage was restored, and I can truly teach others about restoring a marriage.