Let people make assumptions about you.

What they think of you isn’t your business. And honestly? Don’t waste your time trying to clear them up. When someone has already made up their mind, that belief belongs to them not you. You’ll drain yourself trying to correct a story they’ve already decided to tell.

If people truly want to know you, they will. They’ll ask. They’ll listen. They’ll lean in. But some people prefer distance. They’re comfortable thinking they know you instead of actually discovering you.

I remember being shocked at some of the assumptions people had about me. Once, I got behind the wheel to go somewhere, and someone said, “I didn’t know you drove.” Another time, I mentioned I was getting off the phone to clean my house, and they said, “I didn’t know you clean.” I remember thinking… Wait. Do you even know me?

What surprised me most was that these weren’t strangers. These were people who had known me most of my life. How could they not know something so basic about me? That’s when it clicked time spent around someone doesn’t automatically mean they truly see you.

Some people can be in your presence for years and still only know the version of you they created in their own mind. And that’s okay.

You don’t owe anyone constant explanations just to make them comfortable. The people who truly want to know you will take the time to see you clearly. And the ones who don’t? Let them sit with what they think they know.

You just keep being you ✨