I once asked my husband, “How do you love me no matter what?” He makes loving me look so easy. He cares for me graciously, without complaint, always there for me. At times, I find myself wondering, how on earth did I get so blessed to have a husband like him? He is a real-life example of unconditional love, up close and personal, showing me daily what it means to love with selflessness.

But in my reflections, I can’t help but feel a sadness in my heart, realizing that I don’t love like he does. I fall short. I complain when I don’t feel like doing what he asks of me. I snap at the things he says are best for me, and sometimes, I do things grudgingly. But why? What’s wrong with my heart? Why is it so hard for me to love with the same pure, unreserved love that he gives me so freely?

I believe the answer lies in 1 Corinthians 13, which beautifully describes the way love should be—patient, kind, and selfless. Perhaps, this is the best way to live. A love that isn’t conditional or based on how we feel in the moment. It’s a love that chooses to give, even when it’s difficult, and a love that seeks to build up rather than tear down. I’m learning that loving like this is not just a lofty goal, but the key to nurturing a deeper, more meaningful relationship.