I’m learning that everything isn’t always profitable that comes out my mouth. I must not always say what’s in mind. It’s been a constant battle with my tongue and me. I’m having to chant in my head, “think before you speak”. It is truly a time to speak and a time not speak. But knowing when to speak or not speak is my dilemma. It came to my attention how I hurt many with my conversations. I wasn’t aware of it until I did a self-check. I was able to recall every conversation and in those conversations  there was a way out of speaking. I felt so convicted once I realized that it wasn’t profitable. In fact, I may have lost a  relationship or two.  Now, I’m left pondering the question, ” how can something so small be so lethal??”

I’ve learned that speaking is about timing and content. It’s a time to share it and it’s a time not to share. For instance, if my husband is having a problem with someone and I add to what he’s currently feeling. That’s not mature or correct. I should hear my husband out and try to come up with a solution; not add gossip to the conversation. One who makes someone more upset isn’t a wise person to take advice from.

Don’t get me wrong, it’s okay to speak. I failed miserably by not going to people during a misunderstanding. Misunderstandings can only be communicated so that each person can hear one another out. Texts and emails just won’t do. I made a mistake trying to resolve a matter that way. Epic fail on my part.

In essence,  when I speak I have a choice to speak something profitable. It’s a battle that I fight each day. But when I keep my mind on what’s above, I’m victorious each time I speak. Yes, I may speak but only what is right and what is true to the hearer.